Dear Ms. Marwood,
Please please tell your readers the difference between spanking and a whipping. I’m a single mom with two kids and I spank them when necessary. SPANK. Confined to bare bottom with hand or brush. I don’t break skin.
I wait until I’m calm. I explain to them why they are getting it. Then I spank them. It works.
Yes, there is a big difference between spanking and whipping. Firstly, I would never condone whipping as anything other than fetish play for adult BDSM enthusiasts. It can be extremely painful, can leave marks, and tends to also elicit a strong emotional reaction that minors should not be subjected to. The jury is out on the appropriateness of using spanking to discipline young children, but, as I have previously stated in this forum, I have met many, many very high functioning, successful, well-adjusted people whose mothers used spanking to discipline them in childhood who strongly believe it had benefited them. The important thing, as you say, is to never spank in anger and to always explain, calmly (even if sternly) why the child is being punished. I am also a believer that if spanking is used regularly as discipline there should ALWAYS be a warning stated that if the child does X,Y, or Z they will be punished, and the punishment will be a sound spanking. In a spanking household, children should always know the threat they face for misbehaving—especially, if that threat is corporal discipline. Also, as you expressed, a hand spanking is harmless. It’s more of shock and humiliation than an abusive assault of any kind. The hairbrush is another story. I consider a hairbrush spanking a serious escalation and I never use in my session without discussing it beforehand and making sure the client knows what he’s in for. It is the equivalent of a thick, heavy paddle and, personally, I would not recommend using it on any small child. A teenage boy, however, is a different case. But all CP should be considered seriously and used responsibly when minors are involved.