Dear Ms. Marwood
Is it ok.. for instance to spank your child if they are not following the rules?? If you warned them, asked them, negotiated….then what comes next?? Do you spank in public? Is it worse to swat their hinney’s or just let the behavior go??
It is not for me to tell you what is right or wrong for the discipline of your child. Corporal discipline for children is a controversial subject and I am not qualified to advise anyone on this. I have made a few observations based on anecdotal reports from clients who were spanked as children – and how each of them felt about it, but you have to do your own due diligence and make an informed decision. Why not see if you can find some books on the subject. Read some differing viewpoints and see which resonates with you. IMO, it sounds more like you have a strong-willed child and are getting frustrated with him/her. While it might make you feel like giving your child some good , sound whacks on the hiney, that’s not reason enough to adopt CP as your go-to form of discipline.