Dear Ms. Marwood
I was wondering how you feel about spankings in public. I should tell you that my mom has threatened me with this a few times loud enough for others to hear. We’ve gotten some very strange looks.
It’s never happened – but it makes me nervous.
My first question would be – what have you done that prompted your mother to threaten you in this way? Secondly, I wonder if she meant this in a serious way or as an expression of her frustration with whatever the circumstances were? As far as a public spanking goes – supposing that your mother would actually do this, I tend to question that possibility – I think discipline should be a private matter between parent and child and is best addressed in a private place between family members. But sometimes things happen in public between a parent and child. My personal position is that with someone such you, who are old enough to pose this question, your parent would do best to use a different deterrent – such as taking something away from you for a certain duration – rather than an embarrassing public display like a spanking. But it does sound like your mother was merely threatening you. If it make you anxious then perhaps this was your mother’s intent. Obviously, you have been giving the incident a lot of thought and perhaps it has convinced you not to risk acting up in that way again. All that being said, I don’t think discipline should be aired out in public, but I have no idea what your mother’s real intentions were. If you feel that her reaction to your undesirable behavior crossed an emotional boundary for you, you should absolutely address this with her, clear the air, and work out something fair and mutually respectful between the two of you. If you bury this—and your anxiety about it– it could negatively affect the closeness between you and your mother.