Dear Ms. Marwood,
My wife spanks me whenever she feels it will do me good. Maybe once a month. Sometimes more. It’s always just the two of us. Lately she said she may want our neighbor to witness one of my punishments. Or her sister. I have pleaded with her not to let them watch. I don’t take them bravely. I breakdown. Squirm. Even shed tears. I don’t want anyone else to see me that way. Is there a spankee’s Bill of Rights? She thinks it would add to my embarrassment (it would) and that I would behave more knowing I’d be spanked in front of others. We read your column every Tuesday together. Please side for me in this. Please.
My heart goes out to you, dear. Yes, there is such thing as a Spankee’s Bill of Rights, and that is usually something people hammer out BEFORE embarking on this type of arrangment. If you feel that you need one, you can always ask to make one now and see how that goes over with your lady.
It truly is most embarrassing to be punished in front of witnesses. Especially if you don’t feel you are taking it bravely. If you have given yourself over to your wife’s control, then it’s up to her what kind of correction she can subject you to. It really boils down to what kind of an agreement you and your wife have regarding your discipline. If you have no formalized agreement then this is your chance to cobble one out. If you feel spanking as a spectator sport is a bridge too far, you can list that as one of your hard limits.
Since you’re the only one weighing in here I cannot know why, exactly, your wife is considering heightening the embarrassment and intensity in this way. If you are someone who easily forgets the lessons she’s imparted in her discipline – or who doesn’t comply with rules or instructions consistently, I could see your wife wanting to “up the ante” and punish you in a manner that would wake you up and get you to take notice. While I believe in mutually consensual disciplinary arrangements, I also acknowledge that the punishment must fit the crime. So if you’re wife is threatening you so harshly, my question is: what have you done to deserve that? If your answer is honestly nothing, and she is just doing this for her amusement, you have to decided if you are capable of enduring this humiliation. That is, presuming you have not already signed a contract relinquishing all your rights and preferences. If that is the case, I’d say comb your hair and powder your bottom because you are shit out of luck.